Self-Help – ReBecca Burns

Ask ReBecca – Domestic Violence Survivor Passion-Driven to help Women – Duplicate – [#35483]

September 14, 2024

| Depression, Domestic Violence, Inspire, Resources, Self-Help

Yesterday I received the following question under Ask ReBecca: I am writing because I am Passion-Driven to help Women of Domestic violence and Sexual Assault, I Am A Survivor of 43 years of Abuse and 4 years of a SoLo Life. I Am 57 Now With No Income and I Know it Takes Money to Make Money. I Feel Stuck, Please Any Suggestions Would Be Appreciated. Thank You, Laurie Dear Laurie, I appreciate your reaching out. First I wanted to...

You bloomin fool, you’ve been planted, the rest is up to you

November 3, 2023

| Inspire, Motivate, Personal Development, Personal Development, Quotes, Role Models, Self-Help

We have all heard the wonderful saying, “bloom where you’re planted,” by Mary Engelbreit. If you haven’t, well you must be under a really large heap of dirt in that garden of yours. One of my favorite books is, “Simple Abundance,” by Sarah Ban Breathnach. I’ve read it around 6-7 times by now, but every now and then, when I can’t seem to find my way in the world or I don’t seem to have a moment to myself, I...

Learn the Steps to Embrace Your Personal Development Journey

July 5, 2023

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Personal Development, Personal Development, Self-Help

Embracing Personal Development: A Journey of Empowerment and Growth As a woman who has embarked on a personal development journey, I can wholeheartedly attest to the transformative power it holds. The path of self-improvement has allowed me to blossom into the best version of myself, and I understand the curiosity surrounding its effectiveness. So, let me share my insights and experiences to answer the question: does personal development really work? The resounding answer from my own journey is a heartfelt...

Silence and Solitude are sometimes needed to know what to change – be selfish

April 17, 2022

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Self-Help

Today I wanted to write to encourage you to make small decisions to help change your mindset and mood. I remember a time when surviving in the moment and the decision to survive was all that I had, if you are in that place today, don't give up things can change as I am proof of that. While I can give great advice, I often struggle to remember it when I really need it. Every now and then I get...

Take Baby Steps to Achieve Big Goals

September 12, 2021

| Anxiety, Domestic Violence, Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Esteem, Self-Help, Success

You want me to take baby steps to achieve big goals? I can barely make it through the day with children to take care of, a home, a job, bills that I can't pay and then add in constant anxiety attacks, depression and illness, oh yeah, let me set some freakin goals lady! Yes, even with all that you have going on, I want you to set some Freakin Goals! Gosh if my mother heard me using the word freakin...

Ask ReBecca – Domestic Violence Survivor Passion-Driven to help Women

May 7, 2021

| Depression, Domestic Violence, Inspire, Resources, Self-Help

Yesterday I received the following question under Ask ReBecca: I am writing because I am Passion-Driven to help Women of Domestic violence and Sexual Assault, I Am A Survivor of 43 years of Abuse and 4 years of a SoLo Life. I Am 57 Now With No Income and I Know it Takes Money to Make Money. I Feel Stuck, Please Any Suggestions Would Be Appreciated. Thank You, Laurie Dear Laurie, I appreciate your reaching out. First I wanted to...

Sharing our stories is why we are here

July 15, 2020

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Role Models, Self-Esteem, Self-Help, Success

Do you ever have those days where you feel like you are just there for the ride? Have you ever gotten halfway through a crappy day and realized that you had the power to snap out of it but forgot you had that power? The answer for me is a big Yes! I often admit that for me to be in a good mindset I need to fill my mind with something that lights a fire in my belly. For...

How to Create Your Own Tribe of Role Models on Social Media

August 23, 2019

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Role Models, Self-Esteem, Self-Help, Success

I wanted to share how to create your own tribe of role models and mentors through social medial. I have received so much support from the long line of Role Models that I secretly stalk online. Ok, I really don’t stalk them but I have searched out people that inspire me and I follow them on social media, it can’t get much easier than that. I am often shocked when someone doesn’t know who Tony Robbins is, I am like...

You can change your Focus in 5 seconds, what do you have to lose?

July 24, 2019

| Anxiety, Depression, Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

I was working the other day and wanted to learn more about the 5-second rule, while I had used some of this in my life I wanted to know more. The video below has one of my favorite people, Lewis Howe, just a down to earth person that I am learning so much from in regards to the people he brings on his show. The 5 second rule as it is called, worked for me before I even knew the...

Are you struggling to let your guard down after domestic violence? You are not alone!

May 13, 2019

| Anxiety, Domestic Violence, Self-Esteem, Self-Help

Today I wanted to respond to a comment that a reader left about letting her guard down. She wrote, "Every time a man gets too close I find a reason to push him away, fearing that if I let my guard down I will be hurt again. Can I ever love anyone again? All of us have a little voice in the back of our head along with a feeling in our gut that warns us if we may be...

Learn to Stop Tolerating what you don’t want to start having what you do want

January 28, 2019

| Goal Setting, Rituals, Self-Help

Are Tolerations standing in the way and blocking your Success! My favorite time of the year is the week between Christmas and the New Year, during that time I decide what my major 3-4 goals will be for the following year. I had never really heard about setting goals until a little over 20 years ago, thanks to my younger sister who knew exactly what I needed to move on after my husband had been removed from my home. I was...

Living in the Moment after Domestic Violence – I finally realized why I struggled living in the moment

October 2, 2018

| Anxiety, Depression, Domestic Violence, Inspire, Resources, Rituals, Self-Help

"Everyone agrees it's important to live in the moment, but the problem is how," says Ellen Langer, a psychologist at Harvard and author of Mindfulness. "When people are not in the moment, they're not there to know that they're not there." Overriding the distraction reflex and awakening to the present takes intentionality and practice. Do you struggle to live in the moment? Are you safe and away from abuse but still struggle to stop and smell the flowers? You are...

Breathing consciously for 19 seconds will help you feel better

August 29, 2018

| Anxiety, Depression, Resources, Rituals, Self-Esteem, Self-Help, Success

If you want to learn how to breathe right, watch a baby, this is how we all used to breathe Who knew we could breathe wrong? I knew breath was important but had no idea that doing breathing exercises could improve my overall health and mindset. Since I am always searching for ways to improve my life when I saw a video that assured me that in 19 seconds I could feel better, I thought, why not. Of course, I knew...

Inspirational Poetry for Children and Dreamers – Dream your Dreams

July 23, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Poetry, Self-Help

What do you do when you have a child but you do not know any nursery rhymes? You create your own of course. I am sure I am not the first parent to create their own inspirational poem or songs for their children and I won't be the last. The following inspirational poem, which then became a song came together one night, one line at a time as I tried to soothe my newborn son to sleep. Today I wanted...

Mentors and Role Models – Top 6 Mentors and Role Models that Inspire me Daily!

July 9, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

I am a big believer in the power of having Mentors and Role Models. We encourage our children to have mentors and role models, so why does that change as we get older? My first Mentor was Tony Robbins, my sister had given me his 30-day program at one of the most pivotal times of my life, this changed me forever. You will never know it all and having someone to learn from and look up to will keep you focused...

Highly Creative – Top 10 traits of a Highly Creative Person

June 26, 2018

| Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Rituals, Self-Help, Success

I just love when I come across something that helps me understand how truly highly creative I am, if this is you I encourage you to read the full article, this is really helpful too if you love a highly creative person. Click here for the full article titled, "10 Things to keep in Mind When Loving a Highly Creative Person" - written by Justin Gammill. I knew I was creative but had never heard it put this way. It...

Role Models – be the Role Model you need – Life Advice from Oprah Winfrey

June 19, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Quotes, Resources, Role Models, Self-Help, Success

Role Models are a big part of my day. Most days, my most focused and productive, I listen or watch something from a Role Model that inspires me to focus on my success. A big part of what makes me feel success is writing to you and sharing what keeps me moving towards my dreams. Today, I opened Youtube and cast it on my tv, on the list of videos that showed up randomly was one called The Greatest Speech...

Top Domestic Violence Quotes – words to help you know you are not alone

June 18, 2018

| Anxiety, Domestic Violence, Inspire, Motivate, Quotes, Self-Esteem, Self-Help

I encourage you to post related Quotes and I will list them here. Please leave the name of the author, as a writer I don't like to post without giving credit. Readers are often searching for quotes on Domestic Violence and Support. I hope that these may inspire your day or make you think; abuse is never your fault and should not be tolerated by anyone. "Domestic violence can be so easy for people to ignore, as it often happens...

Steps to Success Free Printable- Learn to Overcome 7 Roadblocks that Prevent Your Success

May 21, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help, Success

[bctt tweet="Success is the child of drudgery and perseverance. It cannot be coaxed or bribed; pay the price and it is yours. Orison Swett Marden" username="rebeccaburnsorg"] Scroll to the bottom to get your 7 Roadblocks Steps to Success Free Printable along with your Goal & Progress Workbook and Checklists you can be part of the elite 1% of people that achieve their goals by following the Steps to Success. Please Join the 1% Club and Learn the Steps to Success!...

How to Stay Focused on the Dream – simple things you can to do to rebuild your Self-Esteem after abuse, you are worth it!

March 23, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Poetry, Rituals, Self-Esteem, Self-Help

Today I was reviewing advice online to help rebuild self-esteem after abuse and the article linked below was to the point, don't try to fix everything, be patient with yourself. Be patient with yourself. Think about how you’d treat a best friend who had just been through the same situation. You likely wouldn’t tell them to “get over it already.” Let yourself take as much time as you need to sort through your emotions, feel what you need to feel...

Free 7 Roadblocks to Success and Goal Setting Printable to help you Succeed Today!

February 25, 2018

| Goal Setting, Resources, Rituals, Self-Help

Learn to Overcome 7 Roadblocks that Prevent Your Success and Worksheet to Overcome the Roadblocks and Set Goals! Did you know that 97% of people have no written goals, of the 3% that have written goals, less than 1% achieve them? Why, because of the 3% that do write their goals, less than 1% ever look at them again or often enough to be inspired to make them happen. If you read and implement the steps of this document which...

My Full Circle Moment – just me and Martina McBride

February 18, 2018

| Domestic Violence, Inspire, Motivate, Role Models, Self-Help

I wrote this years ago but never shared it. Today as I was having my ritual alone time with my morning cup of coffee, it reminded me of my full circle moment with Martina McBride. I wanted to write about living in the grateful of today. For some of you, I know there are days when it seems that there is nothing to be grateful for, I have been there too. At times the only grateful I had was that...

3 Fun, Easy and Creative Steps on How to Teach Children to set Goals to be Successful and Unstoppable!

February 3, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

I have shared before that 97% of people have no written goals, of the 3% that have written goals, less than 1% achieve them. Why, because of the 3% that do write their goals, less than 1% ever look at them again or often enough to be inspired to make them happen. Helping children set goals now will be the key to goal setting as an adult. These statistics should encourage you to help your children learn to set goals...

If you want to reach your goals, you must get out the door!

January 28, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Role Models, Self-Help

Just get started The following post reminds us not to give up, to push past the pain no matter what is causing it and to cross that finish line. The following was written by the amazing man in my life. He has always inspired me not to quit and when he shared this writing with me about just getting started by getting out the door, I knew it would inspire you as well. Just get out the door I signed...

To be Powerful and Successful you must have a morning routine, start with baby steps

January 27, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

Daily Rituals I have been working over the last year to create good daily rituals to help me be successful, one of the most important things that I do is listen or read something that inspires and motivates me, like coffee, I need the fix daily. Today I wanted to share the interview below with Jim Kwik, I found it to be inspiring in regards to how important the morning ritual really is and I encourage you to listen to...

How to know if you are chasing the right dreams

January 27, 2018

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Self-Help

When the going gets tough, the tough get going. How often have we all heard that quote? It is a great quote unless you are in need of it. Have you ever wanted something so badly that you felt you would just keep trying until it killed you? I am sure many of you can relate. I am not talking life or death at the moment but we all have our hopes and dreams that we keep shooting for. For...

Feel like you are barely hanging on most days? The benefits of finding Mentors, Role Models and Rituals

January 26, 2018

| Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

I remember that song, "running just as fast as I can, holding onto one another’s hands, trying to get away into the night, I'm gonna put my arms around you and till we crumble to the ground and then" ... not sure how that ends but that is how I remember it at the moment. I feel like I am always running and hanging on by a thread but not sure where I am headed, do you ever feel that...

Parenting Resource to help children express feelings and emotions

January 4, 2018

| Children, Goal Setting, Inspire, Resources, Rituals, Routines, Self-Help

"I was so impressed with the Wink Wink (self-help printable) cards that I brought them into my psych class and passed them around. By the end of the class, everyone wanted to know how to purchase the cards. My goal is to help children and these cards will be a great tool that I plan to use and promote." (Mrs. Kelly, Hunking School, Bradford MA, my son's 4th-grade teacher) Why create a self-help printable card for children? While these self-help...

If you procrastinate you can still learn how to keep focused on your dreams

December 9, 2017

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

Do you struggle with Procrastination? Today I watched another thought-provoking Ted.com talk where speaker Laura Vanderkam talks about how to gain control of your free time. In her speech about time management she talks about realizing there are 168 hours in a week and how many most of us waste them but then turn around and proudly say, “I am just so busy that I don’t have the time to do the things that I really want to.” I loved...

15 Tips to Survive an Anxiety attack and how to Stop them before they Start!

November 29, 2017

| Anxiety, Depression, Rituals, Self-Help

Okay, I hate my life, my job sucks, the kids are fighting, I have no money, I can't breathe, my chest hurts, Oh my God I think I will die, I can't breathe .... Does that sound familiar? It sure does to me. I could work myself up into quite a tizzy on a moment's notice and didn't realize that I had the control to stop the anxiety attack. Granted taking medicine for a short time helped but the trick...

You do not need to suffer in the silence of your depression and anxiety?

November 28, 2017

| Anxiety, Depression, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Role Models, Self-Help

I just love Ted.com, I often just go there to find talks that will inspire my day. Today I was very moved to shared a talk by Nikki Webber Allen about not suffering alone in your depression. https://embed.ted.com/talks/nikki_webber_allen_don_t_suffer_from_your_depression_in_silence Much of what she shares I felt too, feeling that being depressed and having what is labeled GAD, generalized anxiety disorder made me inadequate. How was I supposed to share that and coach women? Over the last few years I have...

If you are looking for fast results, you have a 5-second window to change your life

November 18, 2017

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Self-Help

I always love when I open the right book at the right time or turn on the TV and one of my favorites things in on. Well, something like that happened today but I wasn't even looking. I love that I can cast Youtube from my phone to my bedroom tv, well today I was doing some work on the computer and I wanted to watch some videos about the stuff I love, blogging, marketing, stuff like that, nothing special,...

Rituals can help you improve mental stress and anxiety

October 3, 2017

| Anxiety, Depression, Inspire, Motivate, Rituals, Self-Help

Over the last few years, I have discovered that if I put certain things in place as rituals I didn’t stay in my self-induced funk as long as I had in the past. Man was I dedicated, I could make a funk last for days, and even weeks if I tried or rather didn’t try. Anyway, one of the best rituals I have been doing for the past year or so has been listening to Joyce Meyers within the first...

Who knew you could relieve stress and anxiety with a little pin – using Pinterest to change your mood and focus

July 29, 2017

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Rituals, Self-Help, Success

Hi ho, hi ho, it’s off to Pinterest I go! Use Pinterest for Stress Relief, who knew! When I first wrote this post around 3 years ago I had just recently learned about the power of Pinterest. It was months after hearing the name before I finally decided to check out what all the excitement was about. Well, here we are, maybe 3 or more years later. At first, I was interested in what the site had to offer me...

Are You A Wannabee, Procrastinating Dreamer?

February 25, 2017

| Goal Setting, Inspire, Motivate, Resources, Role Models, Self-Help, Success

Do you suffer from the anxiety of wanting something so much that you yearn and crave to be doing it every minute of every day but you procrastinate? I do. I admit that I am a wannabee procrastinating dreamer. I procrastinate about writing, I think about writing all the time, I fall to sleep at night thinking about writing, I talk about writing; sadly, the only thing that I don’t do is actually write on a consistent basis. Definition of...

Self-Esteem – Improve Your Self-Esteem by looking in the mirror

January 27, 2017

| Domestic Violence, Goal Setting, Resources, Rituals, Self-Esteem, Self-Help

One of my all-time favorite books is called Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach. A dear friend gave me this book a few years after I was out of the domestic violence and I believe it helped me in more ways than I can list. If you ever read another book of self-discovery, read this one. This one book helped me recover in the aftermath of domestic violence and greatly helped improve my self-esteem with each page and lesson that...

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